Iโve been getting addicted to buying art books but Iโve started looking into guide books, Iโve seen one of the Japanese AnWL guide books comes with this posterโฆ Iโฆ I want it!
I wonโt be able to read it but does that really matter.
the fact that watching porn isnt considered cheating says so much abt how dehumanized those women are. like if your boyfriend was watching videos of a woman he knew having sex most people would say that was cheating. but because shes a pornstar shes not a woman? not a person? its so obvious to me that looking at other women having sex or getting naked and jerking yourself off to them is unfaithful to your girlfriend. but men (and women) so thoroughly do not think porn actresses or strippers are real people therefore it doesnt count. theres no other reason why its different.
The OBSESSION with identity is so crazy like the view that when you do something it immediately becomes part of your identity and all the parts of you have to click together to become “person who wakes up early” or “person who reads” no you can literally just do something without restructuring your whole performance of personhood around it. I don’t know what to tell you except that you will never be able to have an entirely unfractured view of yourself or that you will be able to rationalize all the complex parts of yourself into the phrase “person who x” like you should just be doing things without performing them. Or aestheticizing them. Just try different things on and keep what works for you. Otherwise you will never learn and grow!
